Yesterday my Dad would have turned 61 years old. It was a crazy busy day so I didn't get a chance to post. However, I did get the chance to go out on a trail ride with one of my Young Woman. Her mom was gracious enough to make this possible by providing the horses, thirteen year old guide, and watching both of my kids. It was perfect. Never mind the fact we got lost and their dog didn't make it back. . . hoping the dog shows up and and wasn't a snack for the coyotes we saw. I wanted to do a post about the things people might not know about my dad. Here goes:
1. He grew up farming in Provo, worked at Geneva Steel through college, and had a total cowboy accent when he left on his mission. ( I know this, because we heard a tape from his mission and couldn't believe that hick was him!)
2. He was told to quit dentistry due to back pain about twenty years ago. A massage therapist kept him working.
3. He has been known to eat Bean and Bacon soup with spiced gum drops in it, and preferred his cereal soggy. He would actually put his Lactaid milk on and then put the bowl in the fridge for a while to sog up. He didn't understand why this was disgusting and unacceptable. If we didn't finish cereal he would threaten to save it for later and we knew he wasn't kidding.
4. His idea of cleaning up was threatening that anything he found on the floor in ten minutes was going to DI. I have a distinct memory of being five or six in our old house and him pushing a laundry basket on the floor in his old green bathrobe (which it took about twenty years too long to get rid of. Thankfully, the Japanese Exchange Student we had when I was fifteen gave him a kimono one he wore until about a year ago when Mom bought him a more fitting Harley robe. Hilariously, I remember the same robe being worn by my Mom as she dyed her hair back when it was dark and she did it herself.) We were all running around crying and screaming trying to pick our toys up before they were put in the basket and gone forever. It may have cleaned up the house but I doubt the ensuing chaos and tears was worth it.
5. He learned to water ski behind a tractor in a canal. It took him until he was forty to finally get his first boat. They replaced that original Reinell only a couple years ago. Our happiest times as a family were on that white and maroon monstrosity.
6. He was a sucker for the style of clothes sold in Chadwicks. I know this because strangely enough he told me. He also said once when I was younger that he loved my mom's hair best pulled back in a french braid. If you knew my mom, you know this couldn't be further from her style. Flowing long denim skirts and blousy shirts with lace panels in the back with a french braid show he was really a country boy at heart. With her form fitting "black, white and bling" my mom couldn't have been more different. She may have owned a lot of boots but none of them looked anything like a pair of ropers, and they all had high heels. He never expected her to be any different than she was though.
7. He thought being kicker would be the ideal position on a football team. You play the least, don't have to learn all the complicated plays etc, and when a field goal wins the game you save the day. The fact you would also be blamed for just as easily losing the game didn't faze him. He wasn't afraid of challenges and when told he couldn't do something he would do everything he could to prove you wrong.
8. He use to pinch our bums when he would hug us after family prayer at night. When we got to be teenagers it got a little wierd and I remember kind of trying to dodge the hug. He was just oblivious to the fact we weren't little girls anymore.
9. He always wished he had a nice singing voice, hopefully some talents are easier to develop in the next life.
10. He was extremely sentimental and a pack rat. He took our mother's hand made (by her) formals to Good Will without batting an eyelash but still had school work of his own from elementary school. He also saved cards for years.
It is so hard to believe it has been over a year and a half since I last saw them both. Sometimes it seems so much longer, and other times I can still hardly wrap my head around the fact that they are gone. Wish so badly we could have called to wish him a Happy Birthday yesterday. I look forward to that happy reunion when we are all together again. In the meantime, we will shed a few tears, share a few laughs and remember a talented, respectable, friendly man. A great man I simply knew as Dad. Love you Dad!